Some of the most feared and unexpected words one might hear these days are words ending one’s time at one’s place of employment. It’s a blow to one’s peace of mind! Questions flood your head: What will I do now? How will I pay my bills, buy food, gas and all the other things we need? Will I be able to keep a roof over my head? Well friends, I was recently “let go” and I’m afraid I can’t claim to be able to solve any of these problems.
What I can do is suggest a few things that may helps distract from these questions. I would also like my readers to bear in mind that I’m single, and my list of responsibilities compared to you who have families and children is quite small. My expenses are fewer, therefore my attitude is probably a bit more relaxed. I encourage you readers to go ahead and treat this piece with cynicism; make fun of it. It will help relieve some stress, bitching about the lack of seriousness with which I approach my potential destitution. For the record, I am taking it seriously. Just the other day I was scouting the beaches for a summer home, under any one of the numerous piers Southern California boasts.
When I was first told my position was being eliminated, I confess my first thought was road trip. I hadn’t had a true vacation in a few years, and the thought of having no obligation to appear anywhere before 8AM was positively thrilling. Not the usual reaction I grant you, but the job wasn’t my favorite so sue me. However, I realized that a vacation while facing unemployment, while attractive inside my head, was in fact a very ill-advised plan.
I then was eager to get busy searching for a new job. That night, after I was informed of my position’s elimination, I sat down and began to lay out my job searching strategy that I would implement early the next morning. I would scour the internet for hours each day, I would attend every job fair I could find within a 75 mile radius, I would find a part time job to make ends meet. All these things I would do, I would descend upon the job market like a conquering army. I went to bed that night, setting my alarm for 6AM.
When I got out of bed at 9AM the next morning, I tried to feel upset that I had overslept. I couldn’t do it. I decided to go with this flow. I walked leisurely walked upstairs for a cup of coffee with my neighbor, land lord, and very old friend. As we sat in his kitchen discussing many things,none of them very important that morning, he asked if I would like to go work with him in his garden. His career affords him the time to do these things, and I wanted to understand what this was like. I agreed and, coffee in hand, we walked out to the yard in our robes to plan our course of action.
Why do I bring this up? I lost my job I should be freaking out!! I should be running down to the unemployment office…well that’s what I would be doing about 15 years ago. Now you go online and spend hours on a Web site applying for unemployment that you might get as long as you fill out all of your information correctly. Or you can talk on the phone with someone if you don’t mind waiting for 45 minutes to an hour to talk to a real person ….but that’s another issue for another time.
I bring up the garden because this is something that anyone can do. It’s productive and it gets you out of the house. Whether it’s a large vegetable garden or a few flowers, it is an inexpensive distraction that results in something beautiful and positive. Guys don’t worry about gardening not being manly. There are few things more manly than a dude with a pick or a shovel improving their living area and growing vegetables. If a woman is questioning your manhood for pruning some rose bushes, she’ll soon sing another tune when you hand her a fresh, sweet smelling rose that you grew yourself. The garden is great because you can go out there and do a little work, and when you are feeling less stressed you can leave it again to go handle other business.The morning’s work done, I took some time to post a few resumes on line and hit up some job sites and I was totally relaxed.
One thing we forget to do when there is a severe disruption to our daily routines, especially where money is concerned, is exercise. We become so focussed upon finding new income that we forget that we can’t work if our bodies aren’t healthy. I suggest stepping away from the computer or your chosen method of job hunting to get n a work out. It only takes a little while, and you’ll realize the benefits almost immediately. Your body will be healthier, your stress will be lower, and your mood will be better. Looking at all of those listings can be exceptionally intimidating whether we like to admit it or not. It is necessary to step away for a bit. Go for a run or lift some weight. One of my passions is mixed martial arts. I love watching it and I practice Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. After a work out I’m calm and collected, and I can sit and be productive for a while.
One thing every area of the country has in common i that each area has unique places that can’t be found or duplicated anywhere else. Whether it’s natural beauty like beaches and parks, or art galleries, museums and architecture there is always something to explore. If you’re feeling stressed out, get out and see something new. Take a minute while your scouring the internet for jobs and Google your city. It doesn’t have to be Google, it can be Bing or any other search engine, the point is to find something new to see that you can enjoy for a bit. Step away and go see something new. You’ll feel better when you get back, and you’ll have something to talk about besides the endless list of job sites that you looked at. I promise that even the most supportive of people will get a little tired of hearing “So I looked at 500 jobs on Monster and another 300 on Careerbuilder.” They won’t tell you but put yourself in their shoes.
My point to all of this is that you can’t kill yourself looking for a job. When you get an interview, and you will, going in stressed to the max won’t help you. You aren’t the only person out there who is looking for a job. Have confidence in your resume, stay positive and remember to enjoy yourself. When you had a job, you didn’t work every moment you were awake. Keep that attitude even in unemployment. Get out and have some fun. For every four hours you spend job hunting, take and hour or two for yourself. Let’s be honest, you’ve got the time. Hobbies and other stress reducing tactics will help you approach unemployment in the proper way. I hope you were able to read this, laugh a little and even get some ideas for yourself. Ok, I’m going to close this now. I’ve got to go look for a job.
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